Acceptance doesn't mean resignation; it means understanding that something is what it is and
that there's got to be a way through it.
Michael J. Fox
Unconditional acceptance is key to healing and health. If you cannot face up to a situation
and what’s caused it, then you will get in the way of your own healing process.
If you keep asking “Why this, why me, why now” you will keep yourself stuck and
in mental torture.
Unconditional acceptance is the first step on the journey to being blessed with optimal
health and well-being.
It is a crucial part of awareness.
Become aware if you are resisting accepting your present situation. Is it time to let go and move on.
About 20 years ago, when I was first diagnosed with diabetes type 2 it was pre the internet and trips to the local bookstore resulted in very few inspiring reads on the topic.
On diagnosis no doctor or nurse explained to me what diabetes was, how I perhaps got it, what the implications were, what further signs and symptoms to look out for and how best to manage the condition. Simply I was told, you have diabetes. No more, no less.
Three months later, having attempted research and started informing myself, I had a review meeting with the practice nurse in my local clinic. I went with many questions but instead of answering them, and with no eye-contact whatsoever -I remember it well – this little woman, who was as broad as she was tall so in no fit state to lecture me on diabetes or diet for she was no role model for health as she shuffled her way into the consulting room, and puffed and panted her way through the consultation – she went in for the attack. “You just do not accept you have diabetes. You are being irresponsible.” And that was it; no scope for any questions.
She had no idea that I had accepted I had a diabetes diagnosis, hence the questions. I did not, however, believe I had a thing in my body called diabetes. I knew that what I had were symptoms that indicated a diagnosis of something called diabetes.
The nurse had no clue whatsoever what I ate, how I ate, how I cooked, how much exercise I took (which at the time was in excess of the norm due to my work) and my attitude to diabetes – which was one of concern. She asked me no questions about lifestyle. Had she done so she would have realised that emotionally I was healing from a major life-trauma which robbed me of all sweetness of life - a key metaphysical indicator for diabetes.
Sadly such practice of practitioners in the NHS who focus on their computer screen, avoid eye contact, ask few questions then rush the patient along with the answers and have little regard for patient questions still exists!
Having researched and informed myself, completed numerous in-depth courses on diabetes , healing, and nutrition, kept myself up-to-date on medicine, nutritional approaches to reversing diabetes (through eg the Keto diet), and the metaphysical connections of diabetes, I can, with conviction state that I have truly accepted the diagnosis. I just do not agree with how the NHs approaches diabetes and particularly nutrition and lifestyle.
Having so informed myself, for the past few years, on annual check-ups, all my counts and markers are within the normal range. I am heading to better health and not simply managing a condition until I die which is what the NHS would have me do.
Acceptance - first step to healing
All this was possible because I learned, intuitively at the outset that healing would only be possible if I began with ACCEPTANCE – I learned it is the first step in awareness and the journey to optimal health.
It applies not just to diabetes but to any health condition.
It is not just resignation that I have this or that, for resignation often carries with it the sinister air of inevitability that something awful will happen and so a more neutral, less judgemental way of simply ACCEPTING – a way of, without judgement or recrimination or blame - accepting that a situation now exists and then, next stage, opening out to … "so now what” “so now what need I / can I do”.
ACCEPTANCE is about taking responsibility. It is crucial to The T Factor. It is like a wake up
call saying, “it is time to take responsibility for your own health” …
“it is The Time For A Change To Owning Responsibility for your own health and well-being.”
Unconditional acceptance means
Seeing things as they are in the present, in the now, right this moment…just as they are
Not judging what you see in the present, it’s just noticing and acknowledging, “This is the situation.”
Not denying. We often waste a lot of time and energy denying what the situation is, what the facts are. Then we often try to force situations to how we would like them to be, which creates further tension and prevents positive change from occurring. Acceptance means we stop all that.
We stop fighting, seeking revenge, blaming, pointing the finger,
Getting into neutral. I accept … this diagnosis … the relationship has ended … I have no work … my financial situation is poor …etc
After acceptance can come options … so now what?
What are my options, how do I move up a gear, what first steps can I take to recovery,
to healing ….
After identifying options comes ….evaluating the options.
Which one shall I try and why?
What does my head say, my heart say, my soul say, my intuition say? Which option resonates?
'Now' is the only time we have.
Accept yourself as imperfect, flawed in any and every way, before you can change.
Acceptance is not just resigning yourself, giving up, being passive; it leads to action.
Acceptance doesn’t mean you have like or put up with everything and give up on your values, principles, and boundaries. It doesn't mean having to resign yourself to just tolerating things.
It doesn't mean that you should stop trying to break free of self-sabotaging habits or the behaviours and limitations of others or abandoning your desire to grow and change.
Acceptance is a willingness and openness to seeing things just as they are and for how they are, what caused them, if you can know.
You're much more likely to know what to do and be able to follow your gut instinct when you have a clear picture of what is actually happening and why it is happening.