Blessing - a time for reflection

“A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal.”
Steve Maraboli,

Life, the Truth, and Being Free

What does the word “blessing” mean to you?


(Some think it is a religious word and will have nothing to do with it.)


What do you think of when you hear the word “blessing”? What comes to mind? What images does the word conjure up?



A look in dictionaries and you will find various forms of definition





act or words of one that blesses

approval, encouragement

a beneficial thing for which one is grateful:

a prayer asking for divine favour and protection

a thing conducive to happiness or well-being

God's favour and protection:

grace, prayer, or words said before or after a meal.

sanction or support


Reflective questions

Are you a blessing to yourself, to others, to the world?


Are you blessed? Do you feel blessed?

The extent to which you feel blessed may be in proportion to the blessings you bring forth to the world.

As you give, so you get. Are you one of life’s givers or a taker?


What opens your heart? What breaks your heart open? What does your soul long for?


How do you bless?

And, how is that connected to how you are living your life now?

Are you living a life of passion and purpose?

Is what you bring to the world of value? Is it valuable?


What I believe

I truly believe that each of us is here to help humanity evolve, to live in higher states of awareness and consciousness, with a greater conscience of the laws of living, the rights and wrongs of life, doing good versus bad.


I deeply believe that each and every one of us is here on the planet to be of service to others, and to live our lives in ways that matters, that are of value, and we can only do that if we bless and value ourselves to begin with. If we cannot do it for ourselves, how can we do it for others? The most important relationship you will ever have is with you. In order to give into the world, you must possess what you intend to give away.

Considering the above questions, reflecting on them, taking time, allowing answers to come, all helps get closer to your soul’s longing and closer to your life’s passion and purpose.


For example, if you can be aware of what breaks open your heart, it may lead you to action in service. There’s much that breaks my heart today – that we have so many wonderful complimentary, functional, integrative approaches to medicine, yet we plough endless amounts of money into a medical paradigm that denies that good in favour of a narrow, confined approach to health which offers mainly radiation, drugs, and surgery. There is so much more with which we could be blessed, yet we deny people good health because of a jaundiced, political paradigm.


Many are they who, fed up with politics, the control of big pharma, the greed and dishonesty of corporations and the injustices in society have been moved to establish new services, not subject to the controls of state and “Big Brother / Sister!”


And so many families, broken by circumstances such as health, suicide, death, tragedy, and health and social care systems which have failed the, have gone on to establish local and national charities.


But first you must acknowledge that your heart is broken or has been broken. You need then to be aware of what it stirs within you…the lack of true justice, when what you value isn’t valued by society, by your community, or by others.

And you?


What might it be for you – health, poverty, spiritual poverty, abuse of animals, abuse of children, the divide between the rich and the poor, war, the professionalising of politics, insensitive comments on social media, mental health and society’s attitudes to it, the lack of empathy and listening in society, how divided we are, how mean we are to one another, how judgemental and critical we are of one another, how easily offended and angry we can become, multiple morbidity and how we don’t treat it, loneliness, separation from the divine.

And yet deep down we all have the same basic need – to be treated as the person we are and not how others would like us to be, to be Love, to be accepted, to be seen and understood, and to be included and not shut out by endless rules and judgements

And fundamentally, we are all more alike than we are different. We are all a little bit Humpy Dumpty – and being a blessing is a way of putting the pieces back together again, blessing by blessing.

Blessing as service



There comes a point in time when life compels you to act - to be a part of something bigger than yourself on behalf of others.


It doesn’t have to be on the world stage, it may be helping one person in your neighbourhood, offering a meal to a neighbour just home from hospital.


In my own case, I was the carer for my sister and witnessed our national health service and other medical models at very close quarters. I felt called to be part of the voice the advocates for a different more co-operative, integrative, functional, complimentary and alternative medical paradigm. This website is but one part of that voice.


In the 1990s, I felt pushed forward, pushed harder to rise to represent those that had no voice. In that case, it was for those who had issues around sex, sexuality, pregnancy, relationships, and sexual diseases. All my clients at that time were responsible for my success and made me who I am today. Their need required me to get clear on where I stood on various issues.


What do you stand FOR (and why)  on the following issues?



  • Taxes

  • Jobs: Income gaps

  • The divide between the rich and poor, the have and have nots

  • etc



  • Food

  • Food banks

  • Mental Health

  • The need to change the medicine we do and the way we do medicine

  • NHS systems

  • The limitations of the present biomedical model of medicine

  • etc



  • How we support our military

  • How we support our military men and women after service

  • Medical Care for those wounded and traumatised

  • Mental Health of our military 

  • etc



  • Who should be allowed entry to the United Kingdom

  • Skilled Worker Visas

  • Refugees: We should continue the American Spirit of accepting refugees, while keeping our homeland safe.

  • etc



  • Protecting and preserving natural resources

  • Fighting for a greener economy to grow communities

  • Fracking

  • Climate Change

  • Green Jobs

  • Clean Water

  • Plastic recycling

  • Waste disposal

  • etc



  • Water storage, saving, and sharing

  • Attitudes – water and health, taking water for granted

  • Delivery systems for residential, industrial and agricultural use

  • Environmental conservation versus putting human life first

  • etc



  • Higher education

  • Affordability of education at all levels

  • Teaching of medical staff

  • Supporting Teachers

  • Supporting teachers through strong positive parental values in raising children 

  • etc




  • Restoring trust and representation in government, political representatives

  • Supporting marginalised communities

  • Voting: making it easier for people to vote, addressing low voter turnout rates,

  • The judiciary, justice

  • Role of the police – punish or help

  • Criminal Justice: We must move towards a community policing system to restore trust. Community members should see police as people who are there to help them, not people who are there to punish them.

  • etc



  • Financial

  • Housing

  • Foodbanks

  • Public health

  • Education – not always handouts


In any of those areas, how can you, how do you bless the world?


Or do you choose to play small and insignificant, protesting, “What can li’l ol’ me do?”


Lesson 37 of the A Course in Miracles, states simply,  but profoundly - My holiness blesses the world.


And from an ACIM perspective, this idea that your holiness (completeness, wholeness) blesses the world contains the first indication of your true purpose in the world, why you are here, what life is about…to learn from each other through our relationships in service to each other.,,ie being a blessing.


Day on day, your purpose is to see the world through your own holiness and in this way both you and the world are blessed together.


No one loses; nothing is taken away from anyone; everyone gains, I win, you win, we all win, life wins.


Love not hate

Bless not judge

Help not hinder

Accept not shun

Give rather than just take


If your outer world is a reflection of your mind’s inner world, you must first possess the trait before you can help another obtain that same trait or item.


Alas, most of us associate with the body and its symptoms, with the physical world, not the world of mind, emotions, and spirit, and when we do, this world becomes a very needy place. The world of physical, material form is used by your ego to prove its belief in separation, lack and fear. The ego uses the world of form to support its belief that you are not whole, not perfect, and very incomplete. Even when your physical needs have been met, your ego perceives that any gift to another requires a sacrifice on your part. If I give something to you then the ego thinks I have lost in some way, I have sacrificed. So rather not bless.


This belief in sacrifice follows from the ego’s belief in lack. And when we feel lack, we do not bless because our ego says,  “I need all I can get.”


 The ego, believing it has needs, only gives to get something in return. It always wants a good deal; it expects some type of payback for any gift that it would give to another. Only when you, not your ego, see yourself as whole and having no needs, will you be willing to bless your world without asking for some type of payback in return.


You are not blessing another if you expect something in return for your blessing or supposed gift. Your Higher Self, knows that to give is to receive. To the Holy Spirit, your purpose is to bless your world with your wholeness. And when you realise awesomeness, that you are perfect, whole and complete, you understand that true giving requires no sacrifice. No one loses and everyone can gain their divine inheritance. You bless just because it is in your nature to bless.


By knowing that we can bless and that we are blessed … by seeing the beauty around us and feeling gratitude in every moment, we can experience abundant joy and energy. Vibrant health can be ours by detoxifying our minds and bodies of negative ways, thoughts, and behaviours,  and filling our hearts with contentment and gratitude. 


To be a blessing


Do something for someone else; a friend, a family member, a stranger. It can be something easy, or something that’s a stretch. It doesn’t matter. Go out of your way for someone. Show up. Be present. Listen, Empathise. Do.


Deliver what you promise, stick with the thing you’ve decided to do, even when the going gets tough, even when it turns into something you really don’t want to do, and even when it becomes an inconvenience. See it through.


Allow yourself to be human, vulnerable, and, sometimes, selfish. Because none of us are perfect. And if we expect perfection from ourselves, we’re not going to accomplish anything, much less be a blessing. In our being we are a light for others. We lead by example.


Be spontaneous, don’t hesitate to be a blessing, even if it’s an inconvenience. Listen to your intuition. It is mostly spontaneous.


It’s not about you. It’s about the other. Be humble. Humility and blessings go hand-in-hand. Apologise. Support. Show your weakness if it helps another.


Be joyous. Smile. Have fun. Being a blessing is a gift that you give to yourself. And don’t worry, it’s OK to receive something in return for doing something good. Just don’t expect it. Bless without condition.


Be open to both giving and receiving, because they come at the most unlikely of times, from the most unlikely of people. You never know when a small kindness will be a huge blessing for someone else. You never know when someone will unexpectedly do something for you, seemingly insignificant to them, but enormous and wonderful to you. Give thanks. Bless.


Practise random acts of kindness.


Engage the spirit of gratitude.


Be open to the unexpected, do something for someone else, stick with it, see it through, let yourself be imperfect, be spontaneous, in the now, be humble, smile and be joyous, be happy, healthy, wealthy, healed, whole and complete.

A Friendship Blessing

May you be blessed with good friends.
May you learn to be a good friend to yourself.
May you be able to journey to that place in your soul where there is great love,
warmth, feeling, and forgiveness.
May this change you.
May it transfigure that which is negative, distant, or cold in you.
May you be brought in to the real passion, kinship. and affinity of belonging.
May you treasure your friends.
May you be good to them and may you be there for them;
May they bring you all the blessings, challenges, truth,
and light that you need for your journey.
May you never be isolated.
May you always be in the gentle nest of belonging with your anam cara.

John O'Donohue

 Anam Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom

Anam Cara - Soul's Friend