“You strive to please others, to fit in, and feel accepted. In spite of that, you still don’t feel accepted, and not because others don’t accept you, but because you haven’t accepted yourself as you are.”
― Dragos Bratasanu
This page deals specifically with male prostate cancer.
On 2nd February 2018, I awoke to the following news from the BBC :-
“The number of men dying from prostate cancer has overtaken female deaths from breast cancer for the first time in the UK, figures show.
An ageing population means more men are developing and dying from the disease.
Prostate Cancer UK says advances in the diagnosis and treatment of breast cancer are paying off, and increased funding could benefit prostate cancer.
The biggest cancer killers in the UK remain lung and bowel cancer, with prostate now in third place.
The latest figures from 2015 show there were 11,819 deaths from prostate cancer compared with 11,442 from breast cancer.”
And on the same day, from the website www.ballstocancer.co.uk “200,000 men are diagnosed with some form of cancer every year with 80,000 dying every year. 1 in 2 men will suffer cancer in their lifetimes.”
Men can no longer deny these figures.
Prostate cancer - a conventional overview
The prostate is a male sex gland, part of a man's reproductive system, about the size of a walnut. It is located below the bladder and in front of the rectum.
All men are at risk of prostate cancer. The most profound risk factor is age. The average age at diagnosis is 65, and the lifetime risk of developing prostate cancer for a 50 year old is about 10 percent. Dramatic differences in the incidence of prostate cancer are seen in different countries, and the risk of prostate cancer rises with the number of close relatives who have the disease.
In the majority of men with prostate cancer, it is very slow growing. Early prostate cancer is localised (confined) to the gland, and the majority of patients with localised prostate cancer have a long survival after diagnosis. The key is early diagnosis and asking your doctor for an annual check-up. The man has to be proactive in requesting the check-up.
Prostate cancer often does not cause symptoms for many years. By the time symptoms show, the disease may have spread beyond the prostate. When symptoms do occur, they may include:
trouble starting or holding back urination
frequent urination, especially at night,
difficulty passing urine
inability to urinate
a weak or interrupted urine flow
the feeling of not completely emptying your bladder
needing to rush to the toilet to pass urine
blood in the urine or semen (this is not common)
pain when passing urine or ejaculating (this is rare)
frequent pain or stiffness in the lower back, hips, or upper thighs
The above symptoms may be caused by prostate cancer or by a variety of other conditions.
As men get older, their prostate may grow bigger and block the flow of urine or interfere with sexual function. This common benign prostate condition, which is not cancer, can cause many of the same symptoms as prostate cancer. Although an enlarged prostate gland - a condition called benign prostate hyperplasia - may not be a threat to life, it may require treatment with medicine or surgery to relieve symptoms. So if you have (some of) the signs, or are concerned, get it checked.
Cancer has often been called the affliction of “nice” people because they tend to suppress their emotions in order to avoid conflict. I know this to be true of many of my cancer clients. And when it comes to prostate cancer, many men have a pattern of not dealing with their emotions and delay visiting their doctor for anything connected to “down there” – finding a language to talk about male anatomy and functioning to be embarrassing and difficult.
I remember a few years ago when I had to talk to a young male GP (General Practitioner) about men’s issues he cringed, screwed up his face, and said he found it difficult to talk about men’s parts and performance. Having worked in a sexual health charity for many years I had no problem with words like penis, erectile dysfunction, testicles, scrotum, etc but these were challenging to my young GP. But metaphysically, men holding back from talking about their emotions and in particular talking about male sexual function and sexuality, is in fact, potentially contributing to their cancer, not helping it.
Metaphysically, cancer is said to be the result of significant emotional wounding, especially as a child. The most frequent emotional wounds that can manifest as serious physical disease are: humiliation, rejection, abandonment, injustice, and betrayal. Also, a feature of people with cancer is that they have a way of letting long-standing life problems “eat them up inside” rather than address them. Moaning about them is not addressing them.
Whether or not you already have a cancer diagnosis, it is advised to forgive yourself as well as others for all the sufferings that you have endured.
Cancer, metaphysically, is often known as the "butterfly disease". Like a butterfly, the cancer patient has to struggle to break out of the "cocoon" of their disease or die in the attempt.
A metaphysical pattern with people with cancer is a failure to act to resolve long-standing conflicts. Their inability or unwillingness to effectively deal with these problems is what created the cancerous cocoon to begin with. Often, cancer is the manifestation of the person's conflicting desires to escape the situation and to "keep things as they are" because change would be too painful or uncomfortable to face. Cancer becomes the means of escape that many take by doing nothing to stop it from leading them to a "final solution". I had a friend who had a long-term boyfriend whom she bemoaned and criticised for years but she would simply not address the conflicts, inner or outer, or detach from the dysfunctional relationship.
The Prostate: Represents the masculine principle and our sense of responsibility over what we put out into the world, i.e., that which we create
Prostatitis can come from fear, anxiety, self-rejection, self-hatred and guilt.
Prostate cancer can stem from anger, guilt, self-hatred and self-bitterness and is often about our refusal to accept responsibility for the negativite in our life. We may therefore have a tendency to act the victim and to blame others (as well as blame the self as we may not feel we are good enough!) and to deny to everyone (including self) that there is anything wrong or that we have any strong emotions, yet still feeling them and being affected by them.
When a tumour does not become malignant, its cause is bitterness against one's self. When a tumour does become malignant, it involves bitterness against others. Avoid self-hate and bitterness at all costs.
When we look at prostate cancer, and its potential, from a metaphysical perspective, we typically find that men with prostate cancer will have defining mental / emotional characteristics and specific beliefs.
If you received a diagnosis you can choose simply to succumb to physical treatments and / or also deal with the metaphysical causes. If any of the follow describe you, then can you find your best way to address them?
Mental /emotional characteristics
Any mental fears you hold weaken your masculinity
Holding back your creative side
Anger at stifled creativity, repressed creative nature
Too many rules – which ironically boxes in his creativity
Not living his dream / purpose…and may not know even what this is
Feeling sexual pressure, to conform, to be a “real” man, to “man up”
Guilt – often to do with perceiving the self to be not good enough, to be a failure, to be not man enough
Lack of confidence in self
May see himself as lesser than other men
Feels he will never be good enough – especially in a partner’s eyes
Has the weight of the world on his shoulders, life is too much of a burden to bear – and he is carrying more than his fair share
Not in the flow of life, gets by – but not doing what would make his heart sing
High degree of anxiety in life, a worrier – but may not show it
Can find it difficult to relax
Speech may be guarded
Keep feelings, emotions and ideas to himself
Dislikes being vulnerable
Ungrounded – not in his body, can feel he doesn’t belong, unaccepting of his sexuality
May feel trapped – especially in a job or lifestyle beyond “the dream”
Inner struggles – feels constrained by society’s beliefs, opinions, and expectations
Feels a need to “be a man” and prove his manhood – stress therefore increases
But may be confused about what a “real man” is –what he is told and how feels can be in conflict
Remember, the origin of these beliefs goes way back in time, even to childhood and may be outside our conscious awareness but they still drive and influence us in life.
My “creator” never listens to me
Is there anybody there?
I have to do this on my own.
Even ideas must have rules
I best fit in
I am a failure or afraid of failing
I don’t want to get old
I feel trapped
I can’t let go of …
If only I could have done or been …
I’m angry at …
I am depressed
I am overrun /overpowered by women
I am pissed off
I am powerless to change things
I just want to give up
I don’t believe in myself
I don’t belong
I don’t trust my feelings
I hate being told what to do
I want freedom, to create, to be, but feel I can’t be me
If you hold any of the above beliefs, can you now let them go? If letting go is difficult, research the Sedona Method.
What would a new more life-enhancing belief be? Create it – give vent to your creativity. And repeat it often and daily until it feels really true.
Some examples from above
I can’t let go of … I choose to release eg not believing in myself and to love and approve of myself
If only I could have done or been … I now choose to create my bucket list, work my way through
I’m angry at … I choose to forgive …
I am depressed I experience joy and happiness
I am overpowered by women I set my own boundaries
I am pissed off I release all anger and attract peace
I am powerless to change things I am decisive and able to manifest what I seek
Positive affirmations for prostate cancer patients:
If you read the above, you will notice a pattern is that of self-berating and self-condemnation. When you learn to let go of that habit, and forgive yourself, a huge weight is released from your shoulders, which benefits both your body and your mind.
Repeat the following affirmations long enough (at least 28 days) and allow them to become part of your reality.
Every cell in my body is healthy and radiates health
I am fulfilled
I am grateful for the healing that is happening in my body
I am, grateful for my body and all it does for me
I am happy, healthy, abundant, healed, whole, and complete
I am healed completely
I choose to ask for support
I choose to fill my life with love and joy
I love and approve of myself
I lovingly forgive and release all of the past.”
I release all negative thinking and beliefs
EFT for negative thinking and negative beliefs
Ho,opono,pono - forgiveness