The Emotional Guidance Scale
One way to become more emotionally healthy
In 2015 I went through a whole range of rather negative emotions; in part, I was dealing with the aftermath of watching my younger sister die of cancer, dealing with the bureaucracy of the NHS and at the same time, facing lots of personal medical issues which I had neglected during my time as a carer.
Officialdom seldom showed any empathy; medical consultants expected one to be bright eyed, bushy tailed and 100% co-operative at each and every meeting. But there were times when I would find it difficult to think straight, to articulate, to find the right words. And especially when appointments were delayed or systems seemed to conspire against health, and when the depression that comes with diabetes, and the ennui and exhaustion of chronic fatigue syndrome, and the rollercoaster of grief were just almost too much, I found it really difficult to function, and even more difficult to be heard. Was it too much to expect health professionals to understand?
I got the usual pat comments – “Oh sorry, you are in grief!” (Tick box!) “You’ll soon feel better!” (Tick another box!) “Get some exercise, it’s great for lifting your mood!” I couldn’t believe the uncaring tone of their magic formulas. And this from a health service, not just one member of staff, but several. Rare were the few who took time to listen and really hear behind the words, and deeper below the story.
It took months to access mental health services.
Perhaps you have had times when you felt really down only to find no-one would believe you or you were told to pull yourself together as if the proverbial pair of curtains. How did you respond? How did you feel?
If you think of a radio station broadcasting on frequency “1052 then you need to be tuned to the same frequency in order for you and the station to make clear contact. But what happens in our health service is that you and your practitioner are seldom tuned in to the same frequency, you are probably on a very emotional frequency and they on a very practical one, “let’s get through this ten-minute appointment!”
Well, that is because you were on two different places emotionally, two totally different vibrations and you couldn’t “meet” each other vibrationally.
So, if negative emotions are at play in your life, you may have to become your own radical healer and much as though you may not feel in the best state to attend to your own healing, little by little you can make a difference.
We all know that thinking positively makes things feel better, our feelings follow our thoughts, but how do we get there when we feel anything else than even the slightest hint of positivity to begin with?
Elsewhere on this site, other aspects of mental health and neuro science is addressed. For now, let’s introduce you to the emotional guidance scale as offered by Abraham-Hicks in the book, “Ask and It Is Given.”
The emotional guidance scale!
The book offers 22 of the most common emotions with which
you will be familiar – so no explanations needed.
Also notice that, the higher up on the scale the more joyous
and happy, even spiritual, are the emotions.
The opposite alas is true – way down the bottom are the low, d
ense energy, very unhappy and debilitating emotions.
Abraham-Hicks EMOTIONAL GUIDANCE SCALE:
1 . Joy/Appreciation/Empowered/Freedom/Love
2 . Passion
3 . Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
4 . Positive Expectation/Belief
5 . Optimism
6 . Hopefulness
7 . Contentment
8 . Boredom
9 . Pessimism
You can use thEmotional Guidance Scale to (a) climb the ladder and (b) keep track of you progress. EG moving from 20 (Jealousy) to 19 (Hatred) may seem you are still stuck in a negative emotion BUT the reality is you are climbing and making progress. Or you might like to consider that the scale is like being in an elevator with a view on the world and the higher the level from which you can view the world, the greater your perspective on the world will be. With each level up you are more able to see the bigger picture, the cause and effect, and so make better decisions, and have a clearer picture of what you are dealing with. The world looks very different from a different height.
So how could you use this scale?
Notice which is the predominant emotion at the moment. Let’s imagine it is the very bottom, number 22, depression. If you took the advice of health professionals and others to pull yourself together and as one friend put it to me, “Just be happy. I don’t know what you have to be sad about!” then you might think it advisable to aim straight away for level 3 – Happiness. But that is too far a jump. Remember, this is about small, incremental levels. So : -
Tune in to the level of your predominant emotion – in this example, depression.
Allow yourself to experience it, it’s there for a reason. Don’t rush to medicate or replace it.
Notice where in your body you feel it?
Breathe into that area for a few minutes, imagine that with every out breathe, you are releasing yourself from the clutches of the emotion.
Now – what underpins this feeling? Are you feeling insecure, undeserving, unworthy?
Begin to connect with those emotions, at level 19. Wonder how it would be to let yourself feel insecure or unworthy. Do you have anything to feel guilty about? Then feel it? Just feel it, and when you are ready move up another level.
This can feel artificial, but what you are doing is carving out a new pathway in the brain, just as a river is constantly creating a new route as it twists and turns through a landscape. It may not be very noticeable, but small changes are taking place.
Sometimes taking practical steps is what’s called for. If you are viewing the world through level 11, overwhelm, then take some time to identify all the aspects of overwhelm and what steps you can take to prioritise them and manage them differently.
Then, tune in to frustration, irritation, impatience. When we are overwhelmed we can feel stuck, but as we notice how frustrated and irritated we feel, and inpatient to move on, we begin to find the energy to climb to the next level.
You are not being asked at any time when applying this activity to act out your emotions.
We cannot replace what we cannot face and so this process is about having you stop, not just cover things up and try to be cheerful, but really acknowledge and naming your emotions, own them, face and accept them, and then, one at a time, you are letting them go.
Neither is this about lingering in the depths; you can choose to climb the scale. A thought (which creates a feeling) is only a thought and CAN be changed, You can make yourself feel differently with the right kind of thoughts. If you are thinking, “I feel really down.” Change the thought to a combination of ...
What word would describe the opposite of how I feel?
What it be like to feel (that word?)
I am choosing to feel up, to be more positive, to change my thoughts.
Put some physicality into this if you can:-
Stand up and speak the new words out loud – and say them with the intended emotion. No point in saying “I feel joy” in a tone that expresses the opposite. Stand in a joyous pose, have a laugh! Joy, as an example, would not have you standing with slumped shoulders and a glum face!
Act as if!
Disclaimer:- None of the above is to suggest that you should not seek professional help if negative emotions are lasting, debilitating, frightening, and possibly even dangerous. If you are experiencing any of the following, especially if the signs are new or are lasting, then please consider seeking professional help.
Decisions – difficult to make
Feelings – guilt, hopeless, helpless, intolerant, irritable, tearful …
Interest – loss of interest in people, events, hobbies
Joy – lack of
Mood - continuous low mood or sadness
Motivation – none or little
Thoughts – of suicide, self-harm
Aches and pains that are unexplained
Fatigue, exhaustion, lack of energy
Menstrual cycle changes
Movement or speech, more slow than usual
Neglecting self-care, nourishment, etc
Sex – loss of interest or libido or performance ability
Sleep - disturbed sleep (finding it hard to fall asleep, or waking up very early)
Weight -change in appetite or weight (usually decreased, but sometimes increased)
Avoidance – avoiding contact with friends, with people, usual activities
Relationship difficulties – including with self
Underperforming – especially at work
Withdrawing – spending more “alone” time
Other ideas exist throughout this website.
To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.
To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”
― Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them
Map of Consciousness by Dr David Hawkins
from his book Power versus Force
For a different scale, see below!