With hope there's life.
“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.”
― Barack Obama
Hope is not a word I find much used by medical practitioners.
Indeed, theirs is the voice of caution, of doom, of worst case scenario. I can understand why.
And in a hugely litigious era, they needs be careful.
But I do wish, from time to time, they could offer at least a ray of hope, and operate more from
a position of possibility not just probability.
Probability tells me I might die. Possibility tell me it is possible to heal and live. I know that’s
stretching a point but I say it for effect.
When I sat with my sister as an oncologist gave her the grim diagnosis, she was offered a
chemotherapeutic treatment that we later discovered was about 5% effective. There was no
hope, the odds were stacked, there was more than a distinct probability she would die.
I asked if there were other approaches. No! I then asked, should the oncologist discover tomorrow that he had an advanced, life-threatening cancer, would he accept this no-hope
treatment. He was visibly angry and refused to answer. The speech bubble round his head
almost shone, "NO. I would not give in to a heavily invasive course of medical treatment. No,
I would shut up shop and head for the hills, stock up on malt whisky, drown my sorrows, then
have a jolly good time until the grim reaper came calling."
In my own case in the past three years, many are the visits I have made to consultants for heart conditions, atherosclerosis, diabetes, neuropathy, autoimmune conditions, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and mystery illnesses only to be told, "It's your age. There is nothing we can do. Get used to it." In other words, no hope from the NHS; one is left to one's own resources. (And yet on 24h May 2018 we hear again that the government simply wants to plough more money into this farcical medical paradigm.)
Get your own hopes up
This lack of hope approach by the medical profession reminds me of a phrase oft used in my childhood –
"Don't get your hopes up!"
Which I think most of us do when we call to see our general practitioner. We go in hope they will have answers, preferably solutions, possibilities not just probabilities.
Perhaps you were similarly cautioned as a child? "Don't get your hopes up!" And did you acquiesce or did you tell yourself, "No! I shall remain hopeful!"
What message was this mantra giving you ?
It says to have the minimal of hope, for life will somehow disappoint you. (Yet Divine Life, The Source, is full of possibilities, it is abundant, filled with hope.)
It tells you “not to be bigger than your boots,” to not aim high because you're not likely to get what you want. And "Aim high, fall far!" Our whole culture is splattered with messages of no hope.
In New Zealand a few years ago, on my last visit, I often heard reference to the tall poppy syndrome
which according to Wikipedia, is “a pejorative term primarily used in the United Kingdom, Australia,
New Zealand, and other Anglosphere nations to describe a social phenomenon in which people of genuine
merit are resented, attacked, cut down, or criticised because their talents or achievements elevate them
above or distinguish them from their peers.”
So almost inevitably, if we hear, “Don’t get your hopes up” then we conclude that we can't expect
good things to happen to us.
Words have energy, they have power. And medical staff need to be more mindful of their utterances
and their energetic resonances.
If we expect no hope and that’s what we believe, then as our thinking creates our reality, this kind of
thinking almost inevitably seals our fate and committal to a mundane existence.
But you do not have to buy into such a prophecy.
Why not have hope, just not get attached to how you think the hope should be manifest?
It’s time to switch the belief, rewrite the story, and to believe instead in the immense power of our hearts and minds on manifesting the very best life has to offer.
As you think so you get. So allow yourself to hope and believe in a world and life of possibilities. Put your desire and wishes and dreams "out there." Let the Universe respond. Listen to its wisdom. Notice the breadcrumbs.
Much of the care offered to patients who have serious, life-threatening illnesses is ultimately futile. Worse, it can involve many months of gruelling treatments that might possibly extend the length of one’s life, but do nothing for its quality.
But while doctors give care to patients, the vast majority of them would not want this for themselves. Yet this fact has long been taboo in the medical world.
One isn’t asking doctors or nurses to offer false hope but words, if swallowed whole without discernment, can become self-fulfilling, and if a doctor, someone in whom a patient trusts, offers absolutely no hope at all, and the patient believes that, can that belief alone, trigger in the patient, neural pathways that run to an inevitable end?
Even if living with a life-threatening illness, the key to a positive, joyful life is WILLPOWER. It makes you choose Courage over Fear, Faith over Doubt, Hope over Despair.
Be radically hopeful....and as my father used to remind me, "Dinna let the buggers put you down!"
“Where’s there’s hope, there's’ life.”