Without reflection, we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.
Margaret J. Wheatley
This website is packed full of awesome resources, tools, and guides
to help you create an amazing life of optimal health and well-being.
They will be of little value unless you use them.
Key to your success is your willingness to regularly and consciously
REFLECT, to have absolute clarity on who you are and your present
circumstances, and how you created them.
Every day, every event, every health condition is a new starting point,
a time to reflect and consider how you got there, how you move forward
from where you are now to where you want to be.
Every day, whether you realise it or not, you reflect - through the sharing
of your life stories and experience with family, friends, and colleagues.
But I imagine that you seldom take the time to consciously reflect. When you make a conscious effort to reflect with the purpose of reviewing and gaining clarity and insight into your life, you will experience a number of benefits. You’ll discover strengths and talents you desire to do more of and weakness it’s time to let go of. You’ll discover what works and what doesn’t. You will move forward with greater awareness and clarity.
Reflection is not a quick slapdash review; it implies you take time.
The Benefits of Consciously Reflecting
By taking time out to consciously reflect on life, your experiences, your successes and failures, you can :-
gain a more complete insight into what you do that works and what doesn’t
become aware of your attitudes, thoughts, and beliefs which help and those which hinder in order that you …
accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative
gain a more complete understanding of your values, your goals and what you believe in
determine whether you have been making the right decisions in life and change them if not
raise your consciousness by developing higher-level thinking and problem solving ability
enhance your creation abilities
raise your self-awareness, understand more about yourself and your reactions to the world.
think more clearly and calmly and be more creative
improve your abilities to discern and question and see things from wider and different perspectives
get clear on areas for change and improvement
build on current strengths and learn how to apply you knowledge skills and attitudes to new and different situations
assess and ensure whether you are on track
identify those decisions you have been making which negatively impact your health and well-being
set new goals and targets for better health and well-being
keep recommitting yourself to your goals, your vision and your purpose
in summary, enable you to evaluate experience, learn from mistakes, repeat successes, revise and plan.
What is reflection
Reflection is more than just thinking about something; it is a form of “thinking about thinking”, or meta-cognition. It is the quality of your thinking that determines the actions you take and the quality with which you take them and therefore the eventual outcomes.
I had a close friend who, when challenged to change or do something differently, would decide not to, repeating her mantra, “I can’t be bothered.” Well, guess what? Being “not bothered” meant she never tried new things, didn’t make changes necessary to improve life, and as a result, her life seldom improved and so the moans and groans continued and her health suffered.
You need to be able to understand your attitudes (can YOU be bothered?) , your actions (are they whole-hearted or half-hearted?), your behaviours (are they in alignment with your values for success?) and how you think; do you ever stop and think about how you think? All this is needed in order to be able to set an appropriate vision with goals and targets to manifest optimal health and well-being.
And I am not suggesting you reflect only once in your life as a major life review’ spending time regularly and consistently, scheduling reflection time into your diary, to reflect on your goals, your progress and your life, is an essential habit or routine to get into to ensure the best possible health and well-being outcomes.
This habit of regular reflection will ensure you are continually reviewing, learning, remaining focused and continually aspiring to and growing in abundant health and wellness.
It is not enough to learn from the University of Life by just having life experiences. Without reflecting, consciously, upon your experiences, any reflection may be sub-standard, haphazard if done at all and it may quickly be forgotten; its potential value is then lost.
Throughout this website you will find on many pages different ways to help you reflect and learn and plan anew.
When you reflect, feelings and thoughts will emerge, generalisations, theories, and concepts can be created.
If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always had.
Useful questions for reflection
How would I describe my present state of health?
Am I satisfied with this present state of health?
If not, how precisely would I prefer it to be … in five months, in five years?
How will I achieve that?
What knowledge, skills, attitudes will I engage to help me get there?
How will I get those?
What support do I need?
How will I get it?
When will I begin?
Am I using my life wisely?
Am I taking life and time for granted?
If I had five months left to live, what would I do / how would I be differently?
What’s stopping me?
What and where am I resisting?
What will I do about that?
Am I being authentic? Am I living true to myself?
Am I waking up in the morning refreshed, open and receptive to all good?
Do I fall asleep with negative or with positive thoughts?
Am I regularly counting my blessings at the end of each day?
Am I putting enough effort into my relationships?
Am I giving enough attention to self-care?
How specifically do I take care of myself physically?
How specifically do I take care of myself emotionally?
How specifically do I take care of myself mentally?
How specifically do I take care of my financial health?
Am I letting matters that are out of my control stress me out?
Who are the people in my life that I find stressful and need to let go of?
What is the vision I hold for my life?
Are my beliefs, thoughts, values, goals, actions in alignment with achieving that vision? If not, then what?
Am I achieving any goals that I have set for myself and my life?
If not, why not? And what will I do about it?