Website teachings - at a glance
At New Year, many make resolutions.
But you don’t have to wait until the beginning of a new calendrical year.
Any moment of now, which is the only moment there is, there being no past and no future, is a moment to step out anew.
Here are some ideas of ways in which we can begin in this moment to create, develop, and maintain healthier, longer, active lives.
The more you can integrate, the healthier you will be.
These are the key ideas or teachings oft reflected throughout this website.
The website invites you to
Be Aware, Be informed, Be Bold, Be a Blessing, Be Healthy and Happy
It also invites you to consider whether it is The Time - For A Change To Owned Responsibility – that we need more and more to be able to do more for ourselves (and others.)
A feature of this website is not only to provide information but to ask questions, to arouse your curiosity, and where possible to find your own answers, not always from books, videos, CDs and lessons, but from within.
There are the big life questions ...
What is the meaning of life
Why am I here
What’s my purpose?
What is the point of it all?
Who or what is my Higher Purpose, Universal Source, God, The Divine
Who and what are Love
Why isn’t “good enough” “good enough” for God
And then the more personal questions
How much joy are you experiencing in your life?
How satisfied are you with the state of your health and well-being?
How much room is there for improvement in thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, and behaviours?
Is there an area or are there areas of life with which you are not satisfied? Then list them out? Keep a journal.
Are you willing to change?
Are you ready to change?
What do you need to support you?
When will you begin?
Could the time be now?
Life stories Check in with your life stories - are they positive, life-enhancing, or negative, based on limiting thoughts and beliefs?
What are they?
Do they any longer serve you? Or are they really now just old habits?
Can you just let go of your negative life stories?
Stories such as:-
I don’t deserve
I’m not worthy of / to ….
I’m no good
I’m not good enough
Life’s a bitch – and then some
Life’s a struggle
People are …out to get me, they are negative, unhelpful
Living and Transcendence
Are you ready to live mystically, putting your relation first to The Divine, God, your Higher Power, Universal Consciousness, Source of All There Is, Universal Intelligence, whatever you wish to call it. All else stems from the Love therein.
Accept you are a spiritual being having a physical existence in this lifetime, a soul “in a body”
Nurture your religious and spiritual lives, we may not all be religious but we are each have a spirit that ignites our inner spark, provides our life force, our energy
You cannot live a holistic life and deny that you are a spirit with a soul
In areas of the world, known as Blue Zones, where people live longer, we see more centenarians, people generally have lower rates of cardiovascular disease, depression, stress, and suicide, and their immune systems seem to work more effectively, people are more likely to be part of a religious or spiritual community
This sense of belonging has a positive effect on health and well-being
People are more supportive of each other and likely to care for each other when in need
BEing versus DOing
Shift your vision - from the typical Western World paradigm in which we are taught to value doing, to working hard, to trying, to DOing, the no pain, no gain philosophy, - to Being
The way to DO, is to learn to BE – you will never find true happiness by DOing and HAVing
So learn to BE and then DO what makes your heart sing – and then you will have happiness, fulfilment, and success, health and well-being
Honour imagination; everything in our world today began with someone’s imagining
Free up your imagination. Go around your day asking, “I wonder what would happen if…” “I wonder how it would be if …”
Purpose and meaning
As opposed to living a random existence, create your life of the highest meaning.
Know your “Ikigai” – your reason to get up every morning
Having purpose gives life meaning
Knowing the meaning you wish to give to your life allows you to determine goals
“When a man does not know what harbor he is making for, no wind is the right wind.”
“Having a purpose is the difference between making a living and making a life.” — Tom Thiss
“Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.” — John F. Kennedy
Read “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl
Health and Wellbeing
What do you mean by health, by health and wellbeing?
What do your health and care professionals mean by those terms?
Do they and you agree?
Are you working from different definitions, of health, of how you each see the world.
Which paradigm do they inhabit – noticing and treating signs and symptoms, or creating optimal health?
Where are you and they on the following paradigm
Are they and you confined to a conventional narrow medical model?
Are they and you open to more than just surgery, radiation, and medication (drugs) – functional medicine, naturopathic medicine, homeopathic medicine, complimentary and alternative medicine, a medical paradigm which is holistic and integrates more than just the conventional approach?
Is you / your practitioner’s approach about the creation of health or siply the treating and if possible eradication of symptoms?
Is your lifestyle a conscious one that seeks to live as wisely as possible, creating good health and well-eing
Or is it just taking things as they come and dealing with them then?
How aware are you of metaphysical health and healing – which focuses on the mind / body connection of health, how your negative emotions trigger health conditions
Eating and drinking
Coffee is OK (regular or decaf)
Have coffee with supportive and nourishing friends and family – socialising is good for health
Avoid adding to the coffee eg sugars,
Minimise or avoid the consumption of alcohol
Sit down and eat with family or friends
Even if on your own, set your table, treat yourself, make eating a sacred ritual
Try at times to simply eat in silence – no conversation, no music, no TV, and definitely NO mobiles
Focus on eating, chew more than you think you do, savour the food
Enjoy your food but remember the 80% principle – stop eating at the first hint of feeling stuffed, or as some cultures do, eat till you are 80% full
Don’t feel obliged, just because you’ve paid for it, to finish all the food on your plate
Use smaller plates – reduces portion sizes, makes it easier on the stomach, aids weight reduction and maintenance
Beans and pulses - standard among the world’s longest-lived peoples
Depending on your dietary preference a Keto diet would say no to beans and pulses, a Mediterranean and a microbiotic diet would say yes. Personal research.
May be used in hummus, salads, soups, and stews.
For most people, eating more vegetables is suggested – raw is good but Chinese Medicine and Microbiotics would have you eat cooked, preferably steamed. do your personal research.
Fruit is good – most fruits have low to medium glycaemic index, so they do not lead to a sharp rise in blood glucose levels compared to other carbohydrate containing foods like white or wholemeal bread.
People who consume greens every day are reported as having brains that are almost 11 years younger.
The Mediterranean diet is high in vegetables, beans, fruit, and nuts, olives and olive oil, and low in meat and dairy and, having lived in Spain, I can testify as to why it consistently is highly rated
In 2017/8 the Ketogenic Diet or Low Carb High Fat became known for success in weight loss, increased stamina and overall health, and reversing diabetes- the standard American Diet and British diet was found to having been giving erroneous advice for many years
Avoid processed foods
Always eat fresh food, home cooked wherever possible
Make a meal plan, choose a day and cook a big batch of healthy food that you can use for several lunches and dinners.
Food as ritual
Make eating, alone or together, a sacred practice – blessing your food and giving thanks to all in its production line
Many religions have a practice of giving thanks or providing a “blessing” for food before it is consumed. This assists in establishing and instilling an “attitude of gratitude” into heart and mind. Gratitude has been proven to combat depression, increases inner peace and provides an overall sense of well being and quality of life.
The Jewish Day of Rest, Shabbat in Hebrew, begins on Friday at sundown and ends on Saturday at sundown. At the Friday night dinner, Jewish families transition from their everyday lives to a more spiritual time. Tables are set with white tablecloths and good dishes.
Prior to every meal, Japanese people ritualistically say “itadakimasu!” (pronounced “ee-ta-da-key-mas”, and which basically means: “I humbly receive this food”) as an expression of appreciation for the food they are about to consume
Spaniards will always leave a tiny amount of alcohol in their glass – it is God’s sip – it is meant as a leaving, Loving gesture for God.
According to Hinduism, food is a serious aspect of Brahman (annam parabrahma swaroopam) and as a gift from God, is treated with great respect.
In Western culture, Sunday’s are still set aside by some as a day of sacred reverence to eating
Catholics still find a bond between each other and a mark of difference from Protestants by substituting fish for meat on Fridays. The ban on meat helps make Catholics feel special, and many continue to observe the custom voluntarily.
The Amish view children as a gift from God so they tend to have large families who eat together during mealtimes. They enjoy special meals as the main way to celebrate holidays and special occasions, such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter and birthdays, as there are few decorations or gifts.
In many countries eg China, Japan and Thailand, sharing a selection of dishes between a group is very common but be aware customs and tradition. In some locations, passing food with chopsticks to another diner can be associated with funerals and should not be done.
Some cultures, as a sign of respect to the elders, believe in serving the eldest members first or allowing them to begin before anyone else.
In the Christian Bible, meals consisted mostly of vegetables. Meat wasn't eaten every day and mostly, only, when serving strangers or honoured guests. How far we have strayed from a mostly plant based diet.
Grains were an important part of the meal in Biblical times. Bread was eaten by itself or with something to increase its flavour, such as with broth. Fruits and fish were favourite parts of biblical meals.
Meet friends for coffee
Aim to meet at least one friend a day
Make new friends who share your values, who are kind, supportive, caring, Loving
Aim to live in higher vibrations of kindness, compassion, Love, joy
Resolve any tensions or unfinished business you have with peopleGet involved in your community
Leave a legacy to family, friends, or the wider world
Living mystically, put your relation to The Divine, God, your Higher Power, Universal Consciousness, whatever you wish to call it, first. All else stems from that Love.
Next, ensure your relationship with yourself is caring, healthy, nurturing, and Loving. Love is central to good heath.
Consider your relationships with others
Remember people have two basic needs - to be loved and to be accepted for the person they are, not as you would like them to be
Become A Great Listener
Be curious, notice, observe
Have your antennae open to people in need, be of service
Ask the right questions- what, in what way, who, how, where, when but use Why sparingly. It can keep people stuck in the past and people often don’t know why they did something.
Pay Attention To The Whole Person
Remember Things That Are Important To Others, take notes and create reminders if necessary
What is interesting to them may not be interesting to you, be interested in THEM
Manage your stuff, your emotions
remember that what you judge in another is a reflection of a judgement you have about yourself
Be willing to be vulnerable, to be open and to Share When The Time Is Right and without dumping on the other person
Be Genuine, Confident, Humble, Trustworthy, Positive, And Fun
The verses below reportedly were written on the wall of Mother Teresa's home for children in Calcutta, India, and are widely attributed to her. In any case, their association with Mother Teresa and the Missionaries of Charity has made them popular worldwide, expressing as they do, the spirit in which they lived their lives.
They seem to be based on a composition originally by Kent Keith, but much of the second half has been re-written in a more spiritual way. Both versions are shown below.
1. The version found written on the wall in Mother Teresa's home for children in Calcutta:
People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies. Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you. Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight. Create anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten. Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough. Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.
2. The Original Version:
The Paradoxical Commandments
by Dr. Kent M. Keith
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.
© 1968, 2001 Kent M. Keith
"The Paradoxical Commandments" were written by Kent M. Keith in 1968 as part of a booklet for student leaders.
I Keep Six Honest Serving Men
The Elephant's Child
I KEEP six honest serving-men
(They taught me all I knew);
Their names are What and Why and When
And How and Where and Who.
I send them over land and sea,
I send them east and west;
But after they have worked for me,
I give them all a rest.
I let them rest from nine till five,
For I am busy then,
As well as breakfast, lunch, and tea,
For they are hungry men.
But different folk have different views;
I know a person small—
She keeps ten million serving-men,
Who get no rest at all!
She sends'em abroad on her own affairs,
From the second she opens her eyes—
One million Hows, two million Wheres,
And seven million Whys!
Consider your relationship with your environment
Become aware and inform yourself about the environment and the Earth's natural systems. Books, TV documentaries, and the internet are good places to find information. Be sure to look for sound and factual material, not opinionated rants.
Make little incremental changes eg in how you recycle home waste, donating unwanted goods and clothes, reducing your carbon f. Inform yourself on things that you can substitute that won't use as much energy or resources as you do presently.
Turn the tap off when brushing your teeth.
Don't wash dishes under a running tap; pour enough water into a basin.
Shower instead of having a water wasting bath.
Be energy aware - where can you make savings?
Turn off lights whenever you leave the room. It saves energy and saves fossil fuels, which are irreplaceable.
Fluorescent or LED lighting is more energy efficient than incandescent bulbs.
Switch off gadgets when not in use eg CD player, laptop, TV
Limit your total daily time in front of electronic screens which emit a "blue" light that can harm the eyes
Turn off the computer when not in use. If you can, plan certain hours for
Keep heating off when it's not terribly cold.
Turn the temperature down a couple of degrees
If it's cold, wear extra clothing.
Reduce, reuse, recycle, reprocess:
Reduce the amount of waste you produce; use things more than once, and give things to others that you don’t want or need. Plan your shopping, make a list. No heading out for a quick shop. Reduce the amount of waste in packaging by shopping less frequently. Reduce the stressors in your life.
Reuse anything that can be used, instead of disposal after one use. Reuse leftover food - freeze it or convert it into a new creative dish. Get into the habit of taking your own bag (for life) when shopping. . Donate unwanted goods to charity shops. Reuse birthday cards, old Christmas cards, envelopes. Donate magazines to public waiting rooms (dentist, doctor)
Recycle as much as possible... clothes. paper, magazines cardboard and cards can be "reinvented." Put anything you can't use or donate in the proper recycling bin...separating plastics, cans, card etc
Reprocess and compost organic waste in your garden instead of sending it to landfill or incinerator.
Service to others
Become an organ donor
Get involved in your community
Be the Good Samaritan
Don’t boast about your good deeds
Get a dog – aside from canine communication, it gets you out into fresh air (in sunny weather tops u the Vitamin D) and gets you mobile
Get a cat – companionship is good for you
If having a pet at home is not possible, consider looking after a neighbour’s, joining a dog-walking club etc
Owning (and regularly maintaining) a fish tank can be therapeutic
Downsize – if you don’t need a large house, find a smaller one – less to maintain, cheaper on fuel etc
Prioritise – do YOU have to do all you do, do you HAVE to do all you do?
Cut out what no longer serves you
Deal with stressors – including stressful relationships, either avoid them or learn to manage them more healthily
Take up meditation, Qi Gong, walks in nature
Commune regularly – a cup of coffee, a glass of wine with family and friends
If you have few family or friends – consider volunteering
Get enough sleep for your age, activity levels, and lifestyle – attend to any sleep dysfunction
Know that most illness (some say between 70-90%) stems from not dealing with the stress in our lives, both internal (our thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs, our life stories and styles) and external (eg toxins)
Stay mentally agile
Take up a new hobby, require yourself to learn something new
Do crosswords or brain puzzles – research on-line too
Live curiously, wondering, in awe
Socialise, join an interest group
Movement and physical
Get up and move at least every hour – aids weight maintenance, circulation, ad general health
Movement, flexibility, remaining active are all pillars to a lengthy, healthy life
Make exercise and movement fun – dance, swim, walk, garden
Get off the bus one step earlier, use stairs instead of lifts (elevators)
Value your hands, fingers, legs, feet and toes!
If you can, get out and about every day
Soak in what you see – from the most panoramic of visions to the detail on a snowflake
Mobility will aid heath (physical, emotional, and mental)
When it is sunny, you naturally top up your vitamin D
People who manage finances well say their close relationships are strong (by contrast, where finances are poor or poorly managed at any income level, where there is worry about money, relationships become toxic.)
Don’t spend what you cannot afford
Save – for a rainy day, for something special, for retirement. Accept that down payments on houses, college tuition, and unexpected home repairs are just a few examples of things that side-track you from saving and you're hit harder by these life events if your income is small. But plan to start now, do the best you can and do not take early withdrawals from savings.
Budget your housekeeping and food purchasing; make a list and stick to it when shopping; review household and food waste – and notice where your money is really going
Don’t take out high interest rates on credit and loans
Seek advice – even if money issues are often the most difficult to admit to; be courageous and get through this
A guide for people (especially those with mental health problems but valid for all) on financial issues explained in a simple way
Life was never meant to be a struggle
Nurture yourself by doing things you enjoy – hobbies, theatre music, playing an instrument, travel etc
Play, be spontaneous
Bring play and fun to work, to meetings
Let your creativity blossom.
Let your light shine.