Ways we stop ourselves                     from

          growing and progressing

Ways we respond when life is out of balance

When things go wrong or become out of balance in our lives, or in essence we fear moving forward, we feel we are faced with a brick wall, we have eight key ways of responding:-


WE ARE UNAWARE We adopt a position as if unaware that there is anything amiss (at a deeper inner consciousness level our soul, however, knows we are out of balance and will keep nudging us to balance;) others may notice but we do not or are not able to “read the signs”


WE DENY and REPRESS  We are aware that all is not well but dig our heads in the sand; we deny, we ignore – just think of those who for months or years live with certain signs of dis-ease, poverty, bad relationships, but find every excuse possible not to deal with them


WE LACK SELF-RESPONSIBILITY  We are aware that all is not well, may acknowledge it but say “ach” nothing I can do about it, it is what it is, and keep on keeping on with how things are, doing the same things, believing the same things, repeating our unhelpful patterns and habits, ignoring that “behind the scenes” or “deep within us” things are simply accruing and getting worse until we get our wakeup call – in the form of a major trauma (partner leaves us, major health challenge or death.) I sadly think here of a close relative who knew she had cancer but took the view that doctor alone knew and there was nothing she could do to help herself



WE REMAIN IGNORANT  We ignore the deepening signs, we think we know best, we feel there is no need for more information so in essence we live in ignorance (or within the confines of our own narrow world view) of all we could do (the wider world view) to turn our lives around


WE ARE LAZY We are aware that things are not well and that it is down to us to make the changes but are too lazy to bother – to inform ourselves, to be open minded, to find out what our options are, and then to take action.

WE PROCRASTINATE  Even if we know what we desire to do or should do, we find myriad ways to procrastinate, to put things off. We convince ourselves things aren't quite perfect enough, or we haven't quite decided.  Here are 32 ways!


WE BECOME HONESTLY OPEN  We are sufficiently aware to realise all is not well, we face the truth and are honest about our part in it, we are sufficiently humble to be open to doing something about it, we become sufficiently resourced to find out what we need to do, to inform ourselves, to turn our lives around. We become BOLD.


WE ARE GENEROUS AND GIVING  We are socially and spiritually aware and realise that what we are going through can be learned from for the benefit of others and decide to share our experience, or even take things further and advocate for change (think of the numbers who increasingly set up a charity after an unfortunate experience in their lives.)


None of us go to any of the above places of powerlessness totally of our own volition. We have to be taken there, often swept along by following the fact it’s what others do, it’s how we see others live. We are part of the mind herd. Other ways such as coming off target or coming out of balance (which is a definition of sin) learning to feel helpless and powerless through living in fear and embarrassment and shame, believing we have no right to success,  and various forms of addiction (not just to drink and drugs but to unhealthy relationships too) also do the job. It’s usually only when, having ruined your marriage, your children, your job, your relationships, your finances, your health, you have to WAKE UP and say, "MY way isn't working. If there is another way, SHOW ME."  You acknowledge the slightest possibility that maybe there is another way, maybe you really do need to change.


That is very often when you are finally ready to begin a sincere spiritual (not religious) journey. At that point your life morphs into a living spirituality.




What is spirituality


For some, spirituality is a deep connection to something bigger than ourselves, some call it God, some Nature, some Life Force. Some say there is none of that. But there is the story of the boy who asked the Priest, “Where IS God?” and the Priest replied “Does the fish ask, “Where is the ocean?” Just because you do not believe in a God Force does not mean the God Force, a higher consciousness, does not hold you in its embrace. It doesn't pick and choose. It is everywhere.


Spirituality typically involves a search for meaning in life, asking, “Is this all there is? Who am I? What's it all about?” As such, it is a universal human experience—something that touches us all.


Whilst some describe a spiritual experience in great woo woo terms or as sacred or transcendent for others is it simply a deep sense of being alive and thankful and finding one's way to serve as best one can.


Yes, some find that their spiritual life is intricately linked to their association with a church, temple, mosque, or synagogue or other such body. Some whether publicly or privately will pray or find comfort in a personal relationship with God or a higher power as they understand it. For others, they will seek meaning through their connections to people, beauty, to music, or nature, or art. Your personal definition of spirituality, if you are open, will change throughout your life, just as trees shed their leaves in one season and take on new form with the re-birth found in another.

The Wall


Identify your blocks


Consider the eight ways above

Which are your key blocks?

Are you aware of others?

How do you plan to remove them?