Why I can't Loose Weight
Dr Eric Baaker
If someone wishes for good health, one must first ask oneself if he is ready to do away with the reasons for his illness. Only then is it possible to help him.
Being or appearing overweight are symptoms – and what do doctors do?
They treat, symptoms, not the causes. It’s important you treat the causes.
Symptoms of being overweight tell of a dis-ease in the body, of something
being out of balance (and no, as someone once overweight I do not mean
having a wobbly body!) Carrying excess weight is the body’s way of giving
us a message. Here we explore what the message could be. It isn’t always as
obvious s first thought hence why so many have difficulty with weight issues.
I consulted my doctor about my mounting weight (now drastically reduced
but no thanks to the doctor.) His immediate counsel was to tell me to lose
weight, eat less, exercise more. But this is totally the wrong advice…especially
since, speaking from experience, I have never once in forty years been asked
what I eat, when, whether it is fresh produce or packaged, tinned, or processed,
how much exercise I get, how often and of what kind.
How dare medical staff give pat advice without first establishing the cause.
This is where our NHS paradigm is so irresponsible and our training of
doctors inadequate when it comes to nutrition and exercise. Insufficient
attention is given to causes and we end up with shoddy, often irrelevant advice.
And now, September 2016, one health authority in the UK, proposed a prejudiced and short-sighted move that would have seen obese patients refused surgery, all in an attempt to save money. The proposed restriction by the NHS Vale of York Clinical Commissioning Group would have seen non-life threatening procedures delayed by a year for those with a body mass index exceeding 30. This is yet another example of where we are dangerously sliding further down the road of the NHS bullying patients, further indicating how the NHS is NOT about health and well-being, but about management, finances and systems control.The proposal has been challenged and is to be reviewed after national NHS bosses intervened.
And rightly so – with no help from my GP, I tried all conventional ways to lose weight and was unsuccessful. In major part this ws due to diabetes and the medication I was given. Since following the Low Carb High Fat diet, my glucose counts are now mostly normal and my need for insulin vastly reduced. No GP nor diabetic specialist clinic helped with this are they are so besot by counts and scales.
Causes of obesity and remaining over your desired weight
Causes of obesity and of being overweight are NOT simplistically down only to what you eat and how much exercise you get.
Causes of being overweight could be
What you eat – and the amount – too much of the bad stuff – processed,
refined carbohydrates, pastries, cakes, biscuits, and not enough of the
good – protein, fats (see www.dietdoctor.com) fibre, fresh vegetables and modest
amounts of fresh fruits.
If food grows, eat it; if it doesn’t grow, don’t eat it. Fruits, vegetables,
nuts and grains grow. Processed foods cannot sustain life no matter
how well marketed and prettily packaged.The simpler we eat, the healthier
Too much alcohol – calories in alcohol are extra fattening due to the
natural starches and sugars Find out the calories in your favourite
tipple here. Be surprised and remember alcohol does other damage to
your mind, body, relationships, and work.
Inadequate sleep which results in fatigue. Fatigue- yes. Most weight loss happens as you
sleep. And if you don’t sleep well you end up tired. Fatigue
interferes with the body's ability to metabolise carbohydrates and causes high blood glucose levels, which leads to higher insulin levels and greater body-fat storage, especially belly fat
drives down leptin levels, which causes the body to crave carbohydrates.
reduces levels of growth hormone--a protein that helps regulate the body's proportions of fat and muscle.
can lead to insulin resistance and contribute to increased risk of diabetes
can increase blood pressure
can increase the risk of heart disease
Not enough of the right kind of exercise – British doctor, Dr Michael Mosley, the brains behind
the popular 5:2 diet, in 2015 said we're constantly being told that exercise is the panacea to many of life's
ills that not only will it make us fitter, it will help us lose weight and boost our mental health.
But more and more evidence is appearing saying that exercise can actually cause us to gain weight - and there's no such thing as an 'endoprhin rush' that helps lift our moods.
I believe this badgering us to exercise more, eat less is damaging to our health - and morale. It is a form of bullying. It sets us up to fail and then we feel worse and start out with the self-criticism.
But this is not to encourage you to a sedentary lifestyle; movement and exercise are still important, especially when it comes to combatting diseases like cancer. There are so many ways we can integrate exercise into our lives. Do anything that makes you feel good. It doesn't matter if it's cycling, tennis, jogging, swimming, golf, walking, bowls, trampolining, skipping, playing with the dog, or whatever. Some sort of regular exercise is vital to maintaining optimum health.
Medications -I know in my own case my weight started to increase when I was prescribed medications for diabetes, including insulin, and depression. Trouble was, doctors go by glucose blood counts, not by your story of your experience – in my case, when counts were high, the route was to medicate. No attempt at discussing eating or lifestyle, stress or depression. Or to discuss the hugely important effects of insulin resistance. At the time, having relocated abroad and finding it highly stressful (for numerous reasons) I was given anti-depressants – no attempt to discuss with me ways of handling the stress or to educate me in the effects of raised cortisol levels when one is under stress. Diabetes nurses advocated the standard British diet- and kept telling me to eat lots of carbs and count calories. The weight piled on. Telling us to count calories is not helpful - I can look at two carrots but are the calories they contain the same? And as for carbs - yes we need some good carbs for energy but refined carbs do us untold damage.
Switch focus – to the difference that will make the difference
Switch your mental self-talk from “I’m trying to lose weight”
to “I am now achieving great health and well-being.”
Stop your focus on losing weight; trying to lose weight is hard and gives more stress, and stress is known to be a factor in GAINING weight due to increased cortisol levels. (If you are overweight, think of all the stressful and fear-filled thoughts you have every day and find ways to counter them if necessary using a process called Emotional Freedom Techniques.
Get a new map! Your map has to change because currently you will be living
life through a lens or map that screams overweight, lose weight. But what you
give attention to simply grows, it’s always at the forefront of your mind.
The more you focus on weight, the more weight you will get and the longer
you will wait to get to your comfortable weight level.
Name your new map, your new lens, this time call it – attaining health, or as
we are talking about maps, my journey to health and well-being.
Review your lifestyle
As your new journey to attaining health begins, start with a radical lifestyle review.
Decide to take no less than 100% Responsibility for Your Life
There is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live. That person is you. Everything about you is a result of your thinking or not thinking, of doing or not doing.
Review every area of your life (even if you think your issue is just weight! Remember, weight is the symptom, not the underlying cause.)
Attitudes to life and you (ie YOUR attitudes)
Finances. Income. Outgoings. Debt.
Habits – good and not so good
Sex and sexuality
Socialising – extrovert, introvert, reclusive, outgoing
Transcending – awakening spiritually
Weight and its causes
You’ll find more detail on most of the above topics throughout the website.
For now, a simple review might be to rate each topic, as you understand it, on a scale of 0 to 10 where 10 is you are perfectly happy with how that topic plays out in your life at present.
On those where you have scored 6 or under, find some causal reasons as to why the rating is low. EG if you score work a 3 – is it because you dislike the job, the company, the lack of prospects, the work environment, your colleagues, the politics.
For the same ones you have scored 6 or under, now you know the causes, ask what it would take to move each topic up the scale, not necessarily all the way to 10, but incrementally, maybe going from a 3 to a 5, or 6 to a 7.
Trust your inner ding, your intuition.
A good question, when in doubt, is to wonder. “I have rated well-being a 5. I wonder what Love would have me do or be to increase this rating.” And allow answers to come to mind – there and then, maybe later, in a dream, or a synchronicitous happening like seeing the “answer” on a billboard.
You are in complete control of the quality of your life.
Successful people take full responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images they visualise, the choices they make, and the actions they take. They don't get into failure, blaming and complaining. They evaluate their experiences and if something is not working, they decide if they need to change or not. They face the uncomfortable, the challenging, and take risks in order to create the life they want.
We are all here on earth for a purpose; some say it is to Love and to Serve to the best of our ability.
And you will also have your unique mission this time around on earth.
Identifying, acknowledging and honouring this unique purpose is perhaps the most important action you can ever take, understanding what you’re here to do, and then pursuing that purpose with passion and enthusiasm from being the best mum to the humblest priest, the greatest brain surgeon to the cheeriest check-out attendant. It isn’t always about saving the world.
(When we hold on to our creativity and passions, we go into waiting mode, and wait equals weight!)
If you don't know what you're supposed to be doing, the Universe operates through synchronicity and is giving you signals all the time – if only we’d awaken and notice. Identify what's working and what isn't. You may hear things on a radio three or four times in a day and somehow you sit up and take notice. Your intuition may speak softly to you. You might meditate and in time in meditation, a new awareness dawns. You might simply become aware that your behaviour, attitude, likes and dislikes, and life experiences are all telling you to close one door and be prepared to walk through another.
Decide What You Want - desire
So you have it all – the job, the car, the house, the partner (or not – for that may suit some) the big bank balance, the lifestyle, and yet, and yet, something is missing, you feel unsatisfied and unfulfilled. You may even feel drained and fatigued, spiritually empty.
Often we let life happen to us; it creeps up on us. Because often we haven't clearly mapped out what we want and then taken the steps to get there.
So take time to identify specific goals, milestones, and BIG dreams. Define your desires in clear and compelling detail. What does success look like to you? What would you look like at the right weight. How would you dress. How would you carry yourself? When you look at that “new” you, how do you behave differently? What are the benefits to the “new” you? How do you feel.
See? Don’t think “losing weight” – think big and imagine attaining a new life.
Believe It Is Possible - belief
Believe in yourself – believe you can do this, whatever this is for you. Develop a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes; the abilities, inner resources, talents and skills to create your desired results. If you lack a skill, find a way to get it either by developing it in yourself or hiring someone.
Commit to believing in yourself; this means no more negative self-talk, no more judging and complaining. Spend some time increasing your awareness of just how often you whinge!
I'm fat. I’ve overweight. I’m ugly.
I'm tired. I’m exhausted. My get-up-and-go has gone.
I don’t like …..
I hate being lonely and alone.
Bad things always happen to me.
I'll never find a life partner.
Why am I always running out of month at the end of the money?
I can never find a decent job.
People are always against me.
I can’t stand my relationship with ….
The above is not uncommon. As you believe, so you get. Your thoughts today create your tomorrow, then the next day, then the days after that.
But the statements you come up with are yours. They are about YOU. They are your stuff to deal with.
And, the good news, they are all just thoughts and thoughts can be changed.
We live in an abundant world.
Metaphysically, everything we need or desire is there for the asking. Most of us never ask.
Believe in an abundant Universe. Louise L Hay talks of going to the sea to fetch some water and invites people to notice what the vessel is – do they take a thimble for just a tiny amount, a small pale, a larger bucket, a ship’s container. If you think small, you get small. If you aim at the moon and miss, you will still get the stars.
Always expect the world to support you and bring you opportunities.
If you want a different weight, a different life, change your thinking, your feelings, your inner dialogue, your external behaviour.
You cannot expect things to be different if you keep thinking and doing the same things.
So what is the difference you can bring that will make the difference? It may be as simple as changing your attitude. Small steps to start with. It may be spending a day ridding your cupboards of all tinned, processed, and packaged foods, making way for the new.
Scientists tell us our brains have an in-built sat nav; whatever goal you give to your subconscious mind, it will work day and night to achieve. But the goal has to be specific. Imagine keying in “I want a good life” – how will the sat nav know where to direct you. But tell it that you are now of a certain weight, slim, fit, healthy, radiant, full of energy and it can now set off in the right direction.
Then it’s up to you; you will need to
Accept that some change may be uncomfortable
Invest time and money and effort
Deal with people who would rather you didn’t change
Be prepared to sever relationships or move
Be willing to change your thinking and your behaviour
Be willing to take your emotionally based negative self-talk and make it positive
Keep reminding yourself of the new you and take responsibility for her or him
Be flexible, willing to change course
With each illness or dis-ease, your body is sending you a signal to change and it is fundamentally reminding you to love yourself. Through genuine self-love, self-care, self-compassion, you allow love, your heart, to guide you to wellness, wholeness and well-being. To love yourself is to give yourself permission to live as you choose whilst being respectful of others. When you love yourself, you accept yourself as you are at any moment, the light and the shadow, with all your humility, your fears, weaknesses, desires, beliefs and aspirations that are all facets of who you are.
You see, when the body comes in to good health it simply has to bring you to the weight that is right for you.
When you love your body, it loves you back.
When you love you, 100%, life works!
A Metaphysical Perspective on Obesity and Being Overweight
Lise Bourbeau has worked with thousands of people, helping them to unearth the underlying causes of specific diseases. Like Louise L Hay, and many other writers, she posits that any physical health issue is a manifestation of dis-ease on psychological and/or emotional levels. The physical body is responding to the imbalance and warning of the need to return to the path of love and harmony. In her book: Your body’s telling you: Love yourself by: Lise Bourbeau, Lise says the following:-
Obesity is an increase in body weight as a result of an excessive accumulation of fat in the body beyond skeletal and physical limitations.
Although obesity can be caused by a number of physiological factors, the psychological implications are related to a situation or person that humiliated you when you were young and you felt ashamed. You now live in a state perpetual fear of feeling ashamed, making someone else feel ashamed or being ashamed by someone else.
You have built a psychological wall around you – a barrier of fat to shield you from the demands and expectations of others. You probably have difficulty saying no and have a tendency to take on too much because you would be ashamed to say no.
You may feel sandwiched between two people, doing everything you can to satisfy both. You want to make others happy to prove that you are not ashamed of them. While doing this, you’re completely out of touch with your own needs.
It is also common to gain weight as a protective psychological barrier against the opposite sex. You may believe that your obesity will not be attractive to the opposite sex and you will therefore avoid being hurt, humiliated or emotionally abused by them.
Frequently, obese people want to take their rightful place in life but are uncomfortable doing so. Little do they know that they are already taking up a lot of space in life, not only physically.
In my observation, those with problems with obesity are often deeply sensitive, they are unable to take a long, hard, honest look at themselves in a mirror. Are you able to really look at each part of your body in a mirror? It’s very important if you want to address your obesity and fully understand it. The ability to look honestly at physical body is linked with your capacity to look beyond the physical to the real cause of this problem.
Experiencing the humiliation you did as a child has caused you to build a protective barrier to prevent you from being taken advantage of. You thought you could achieve your goals by being a “nice” person and by taking on other people’s burdens. It is important for you to learn how to receive instead of always giving. Realize that receiving takes nothing away from others.
I suggest that, at the end of each day you recount any incident that humiliated you or made you feel ashamed, and determine whether or not the shame was really justified. Ask someone you trust what they think.
Also make it a habit to ask yourself “What do I really want?” before agreeing to others requests or before offering your services. The love and esteem and esteem that others have for you will not diminish. On the contrary, they will appreciate the fact that you respect yourself and that you are taking a stand. Although you will always be an obliging person, as is your nature, you also need to learn to feed your own soul. It is your birthright to be happy and to take your place in the lives of those close to you. Believe in your own self-worth.
More on metaphysics
Metaphysics (beyond the physical or beyond the obvious) is a philosophy that methodically investigates the causes and nature of first principles and issues of ultimate reality. Its connection to the physical is critical to permanent healing and is by no means contraindicated in conjunction with conventional health and healing as delivered by health care systems. On the contrary, it is medicine’s most valuable teammate.
When illness or disease present, it is the body communicating to us that our way of thinking (albeit unconscious) is out of harmony with what the body needs. Through illness the body is sending the message that we need to change our beliefs or else we are reaching our physical and psychological limits. The physical body in itself does not just suddenly create illness; it can do nothing by itself. What maintains its life is our soul, our inner self, our thinking, our beliefs, our lifestyle.
In order to heal, holistically and not just treating symptoms, it is essential to remove the negative beliefs that contribute to an unhealthy physical condition.
If you continue to tell yourself that you are not good enough and you don’t deserve (a partner, to be your ideal weight, to love, be loved etc) then those beliefs are preventing you from manifesting what you desire.
There are various exercises on this site on how to change your beliefs. But the key, especially when it comes to being your ideal weight, is to overcome fear-filled thoughts, and live in authentic love.
Look in the mirror and tell yourself how wonderful you are. You don’t have to wait until you become your ideal weight or build your muscles or lower your cholesterol or reduce your fat ratio. You need to love yourself right now and listen with love to the needs of your body.
As much as we’d like to think our sugar addiction is purely physical, and sheer force of will can cure it, that is not usually the case. Cravings almost always arise from a need to resolve an internal imbalance either physical (perhaps in the gut) or emotional.
The subconscious mind accounts for an estimated 95 percent of our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. That means that only about 5 percent of the day we are consciously directing our lives. Five percent! Ninety-five percent we are on automatic pilot. That’s why it’s so hard to put down that damn cookie.
Until about age 7, most of our major subconscious processes are fixed – and we don’t know it. At this time, we learn what it takes to be accepted, belong, loved and safe in the world. For example, if parents often argued in anger, we may have learned how to hide in order to stay safe or to develop a believe that we have to become the peace maker. With those subconscious beliefs, the natural inclination will be to shut down or hide in some way or work in ways that make you a mediator, seeking harmony and justice. But when we are young, what better way to shove our emotions into a tiny, tiny hole than by numbing ourselves with foods? We learn to cope and we use food to feed a lack within our emotional selves.
Now as adults, we can reframe how we see the world, choose a different map, look through a lens of creativity, aided by divine expression and intervention.
From a metaphysical perspective, here are some ways to intuitively connect with your higher self and bring back control to achieving sensible eating.
Who is it you are feeding?
Who are you feeding? Your body or emotions, that scared little child perhaps? If we’re reaching for a chocolate to satisfy a sugar craving, are we really grasping for a type of reward or an escape route? Take a moment to consider why the craving is existing? Talk to it? What is this craving satisfying? . What do you really need? What can you do in that moment to nurture or treat yourself instead of catering to the craving? Invite your Higher Power, the Divine within you, to enlighten you.
Ask your body.
Our bodies are filled with energy, containing our life force. We think we are we – but in reality, it’s millions of co-operating co-communicating cells within that are driving us! They make up our body and our bodies are always trying to get our attention as things are going off balance. That is what pain is. Not just a darned nuisance, but a messenger that something is wrong.
We demand so much from our bodies, expect them to be there for us, but how often do we consciously think about what our bodies need from us and then give them what they really need?
Your body says, “rest” and you over-ride the message, you continue your workaholic tendencies, until one day you burn out. Your adrenals are exhausted, And you get a diagnosis of chronic fatigue syndrome.
You become thirsty, your eyes become problematic, you constantly need to be going to the toilet – you ignore the signs, until one day you just HAVE to seek medical advice, and discover you had the classic signs of diabetes.
You notice over months that you need to change dress or trouser sizes. But take no action other than buy new clothes. But your body is saying something or many things are out of balance.
Listen to your body.
Even ask it, “What would you have me do for you?” Then listen some more.
To LISTEN means to be SILENT.
By becoming SILENT and getting back in touch with your body, you can realise pretty quickly what it's telling you.
Our grab-and-go culture, our constant diverting of attention through texting, watching TV whilst eating, working lunches, not sitting down to eat with others, is at odds with the natural rhythm of life, the natural pace of our body.
Commit to taking time to eat. Then eat slowly, savouring the flavours and tastes, noticing what it likes to eat, to become satisfied. And yes, this has already been stated - but it is worth repeating as we have become so out of touch with the importance of how we eat affects our well-being.
Inspire your creativity
Play the wonder game. I wonder …
How I could be more in tune with my body
I could connect more to my Higher Power
I could learn to notice the signals and signs my body and spirit give me
Find inspiration with new recipes. But not just any recipes. Go to www.dietdoctor.com for ideas and philosophy.
Buy from local farmers’ markets. Wander slowly around the market, taking in the sights and smells, or grocery store and choose to create recipes based on the foods to which you're intuitively drawn. By buying locally, means buying in season and food in season is always more in rhythm with our natural cycles
Feed your soul.
By nurturing our inner selves, being comfortable in our skin, learning to Love the self unconditionally, we diminish the urge to reach for an outside stimulant to fill our emptiness. Feeding your soul could mean listening to music, meditating, going on a walk in nature or just taking time to be. Be creative. Creativity is your divine expression. It lifts your spirits, inspires and connects you with your highest self.
Guidance on fats and oils and cooking
With all the commendations these days to follow a LowCarbHighFat eating style, and with a lot of the guidance we have been given over the years on the evils of fat now falling into discredit, check out for yourself the terminology around fat – saturated, monounsaturated, polyunsaturated and trans fats – and learn what’s best for you.
Get the low-down here on what to have (eg Avocado Oil, Coconut Oil, Butter, Ghee etc) and what’s best to avoid (eg Corn Oil, Canola Oil, Trans Fats, Grapeseed Ooil etc)
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Websites The Bulletproof Diet for beginners
Bone Broth Fasting - for weight loss and good health
The Medical Medium - secrets behind chronic and mystery illnesses